Parent Support

May 5, 2016
Smiling happy teenage girl sitting in front of her parents

The “Golden Ticket” to Support & Perspective

“What am I supposed to do about my son?” “Why is this so hard? “Who can I talk to?” Parent conference weekend just wrapped up at Heritage, which was a marvelous opportunity for parents to rub shoulders with others in their same boat.  After a few hours spent together, learning and discussing this intensely emotional path, one father summed up the parent experience by saying “It’s like we’ve been given a golden ticket to an exclusive club – one we didn’t know existed.”  The chuckles from the rest of the parents in the room made it clear that this description hit […]
April 27, 2016
Teenage girl rolling her eyes in front of angry parents

Principle Centered Parenting, Finding Common Ground

I was recently working with a set of parents who were frustrated with each other because of how the other was parenting. The father was very task oriented and was continually “hounding” (according to mom) their son to clean his room, do his homework, get off the computer, to do something with his life besides playing video games, etc. The father quickly shot back that mother was too permissive and didn’t follow through with consequences, that she was too lenient. Each of the parents looked at me hoping I would take their side and prove to the other who was […]
April 21, 2016
Family Playing Cards In Kitchen

It’s About Time! 10 Ways You Can Develop A Relationship With Your Teen.

Life is busy! There is not enough time in the day to do everything that we want and need to do.  Trying to strengthen your relationship with your teen may be something you want to do but you just don’t feel you have the time for.  What if you made a paradigm shift that allowed you to look at every experience with your teen as an opportunity to build trust and strengthen that relationship? This new view would make even the simple things become valuable opportunities.   You can use the time you do have in the best way possible. Here […]
December 17, 2015
Senior couple laughing and talking to camera

Parental Guilt and Compassion Fatigue: Part 2/2

Human empathy exposes us to a range of vulnerabilities that tend to physically and mentally break us down into parenting mush!  We lose our effectiveness, our parenting moxie, the belief that we should be better than we have become.  And the evidence…our son/daughter is in residential treatment.  The guilt discussed previously drives us to a breaking point.  Often we think we should just buck up and take it.  But if you really look at your effectiveness at home, in the work place, with other relationships that seem to deteriorate with not knowing why?  I suggest the human system can only […]
December 14, 2015
Caucasian blonde mom  in foreground in bathrobe holding head in frustration, while kids fight in background in kitchen.

Parental Guilt and Compassion Fatigue: Part 1

Let’s just clear the table of the thanksgiving turkey and agree, all parents who remove their children from the home to residential care are empathetic !  Even if your teen has scolded you into believing otherwise. Because of your great capacity to just take it, parents become exposed to a variety of traumatic situations, either by witnessing them or learning about them from their children or other professionals.  If this hasn’t happened then on to the next blog. As we move into the holiday season I want to take a few minutes to remind parents of a couple items.  One, […]

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